As I write this post, I’m thinking about one of the sweetest conversations I recently had with my younger sister. It led me to reflect on our childhood—how we grew up, the experiences we shared, and even how differently we view life today.
One thing is certain: my sister and I couldn’t be more different. She is gregarious, quick-thinking, creative, and incredibly resilient. I, on the other hand, tend to be more observant, reflective, and measured in my approach to life. When I think about it, I have to chuckle because our relationship has traveled many miles over the years, complete with plenty of bumps along the way. Yet those differences have enriched our relationship and deepened our appreciation for one another. The journey has been worth it.
Reflecting on our relationship reminds me of a principle that lies at the heart of Montessori philosophy and has become one of the most important lessons in my own parenting journey: respect.
Why is respect so important?
Respect allows us to see each child as a whole person—not simply as someone we are raising, teaching, or shaping, but as an individual with their own personality, strengths, interests, and way of experiencing the world. Respect also means understanding that children develop in their own unique ways and at their own pace. Just as my sister and I grew into very different adults, our children are each following their own path of development, one that deserves to be honored and celebrated.
